Babies and Threesomes

Tricky logistical problem in our pending threesome with FB's best friend. Since FB and I are sexually monogamous, we don't use protection. However, FB's BFF (this does get confusing, haha) will definitely have to use protection during our menage a trois if only because if ever a complication arises, I would like to be certain of paternity. And, of course, I'd rather have FB's "good looking genes". Yes, we have to constantly strive to improve the species.

Frankly, I don't know what FB thought about all that. Tangentially, I might as well have told him that he looks gorgeous. Not sure if he knew that before but that's okay. So with that as a starting point, we managed to steer the conversation to babies and what ifs.

I asked him if he would like to know if ever I got pregnant by him and he said that he didn't want to know. Of course, I called him a jerk. Then I also said that how sure was he that I was going to tell him anyway? I told him why should I let him know when he didn't care for the kid anyway? And he said, "of course not". See? That's the other strange thing with this guy that I've noticed. He never wants to find him having his back up against the wall. He won't say that it's a definitive no even if that's what it really is. He just likes having his options open.

The only reason I'm tolerant of that is that I'm the same way so I guess, I understand. I drive people crazy sometimes not having anything definite in mind and waiting until the last minute to make a decision but yes, I do like having the option for as long as I like.

Anyway, he said that he was dating someone before who asked him to knock her up but he refused her flat out. I don't know why the guy is so hesitant in bringing another person into this world when it seems that he would make a good dad. I told him that. He said that I hadn't seen him with any children yet so how could I know? I told him that I didn't need to see him with kids to know he'd be good with them. It's a matter of character and well, if he can handle me, then he can handle any two year old. Boy, did he laugh at that.

Then, he asked me if I wanted him to shoot it deep during the middle of my cycle, my non-safe zone. Seriously, I don't know what this guy wants. He tells me that he doesn't want to be a dad and all that, doesn't want to be responsible and accountable for whatever life we bring into this world and then he suggests risky baby making sex. WTF?